A break-up is usually a very hurtful process. And more often than not, the two people involved react differently to the breakup.
When your ex-boyfriend hates you, it is much more difficult to get him to change those feelings and love you once more, but it is not an impossible quest.
Once you set your mind to recapture your lost love, you should come up with a plan to change those feelings of hate to love. It does not matter who broke up with whom, or who hurt who.
When you feel the love you lost is something worth fighting for, you can use these ways to get your ex boyfriend back. Follow these simple steps, and maybe, just maybe, those feelings of love will cross the thin line to a wonderful, fulfilling relationship full of love.
When my friend Judy complained “my ex boyfriend hates me and I want him back“, our group of friends asked her lots of questions on how that came about. And she realized before she could start acting on her strategy to get her man back, she had to first ask herself what made him hate her so much.
Did he really love her in the first place? If you face the same situation, ask yourself why you want him back. Is it a matter of ego? Is it that you just want to prove no man can get away from you or hate you? Ask yourself what it is about him and the relationship that you think is worth saving.
One thing that will for sure not get him back is you stalking him. Checking out his Facebook page every 5 minutes, calling him for no apparent reason, visiting his parents or workplace, or asking his friends and acquaintances about his every move won’t get him back.
Most likely it will turn him off and will get everyone else hating you just as much as he does.
Awaken His Desire
If you want my free love advice, I will tell you the one thing that will work is awakening his desire. Disappear from his life for a while, hit the gym, buy some new clothes, do something sexy and different with your hair.
And then the next time he sees you, wow him with the sexier, prettier you. Men are visual creatures, and how you look determines how attracted he is to you.
I know, he probably was the one who messed everything up. Forgiving him unconditionally is the first step towards getting him back. Seek his forgiveness for any wrongs you might have committed too.
This will also be a huge step in your healing process, whether you eventually get him back or not.
If a guy sees you jumped straight into another relationship right after your breakup, he will never take you seriously. Plus, he will most likely view you as damaged goods.
Allow for some time to enjoy the single life and rediscover yourself. Your newly-found independence will very much attract him. It also helps you avoid complications which are likely to occur when a third party’s feelings are involved.
Make First Contact
You have decided you want him back, now brave up and go for it. Yes, don’t be shy, just walk up and say hi. Call him and take him out for coffee. But remember, do not pester him or stalk him. Just let him know if he wants to talk you are ready. Let some reasonable time pass before making contact though.
Getting your ex boyfriend back is no easy task, especially if he hates you. Approach the issue with care to avoid humiliation and more heartbreak. You have an advantage though, you know your man well, his likes and dislikes. Use this knowledge to your advantage.